Disclaimer: This is purely opinion and not based on anyone in particular in my everyday life! Enjoy!
I have really been focusing lately on getting my parenting back on track because while I was in the previously mentioned funk I may or may not have let a few things slide when it came to my kids and the way I handled situations. I also had become a monster to live with as I am sure Kevin would never admit but secretly wanted to divorce and decided that I needed to make some major changes so my children didn't end up turning into mini monsters. Now that I am back on track I have been noticing the way people parent their children and have become in tune with the various parenting styles out there and let me tell you what there are some interesting ones for sure.
The uptight-control-freak-perfectionist: This type of parenting is one that means the parents are overstressed to the max. They expect their children to be perfect every single second of every single day. There is no room for error in routine or education. Parents of this style do not enjoy their children for who they truly are they end up loathing the fact that they are even children. I think parents who parent this way would be better off having a robot for a child. I have only seen a limited number of parents who fit this style and trust me they are not fun people to be around so I am glad I have only encountered them on a rare occasion.
The laid back-go with the flow-kids running all over the place: This type of parenting is one that means the parents are super care-free and don't know where their children are half the time. Yes people these are the parents who's kids are running around the store screaming and hollering or at the McDonald's play place carrying on like they were born in a barn. This type of parenting has no boundaries and their children have no rules so therefore there are no consequences and both parent and child live in a crazy, chaotic state of bliss. Don't get me wrong it is fine to be laid back and go with the flow but please set some boundaries! Again not the funnest of people to be around because I for one don't want my children thinking it is okay to act like wild animals in public.
The calm-quiet-never raise their voice-softhearted- but stern: This type of parenting is one that takes a person of great patience and lots of practice (I assume as I have never been this type of parent but SOO wish I was sometimes). These are the ones that give their children a soft spoken command and more often than not their children follow the command and do good. I love being around a parent and child who come from this type of parenting because it is always so soothing and quiet. BELIEVE they do exist and not just in Michelle Dugger.
The one, two...- I'm not going to tell you again-this is your last warning: This type of parenting is one that more often than not I fall victim to and have to remind myself not to do. I see parents who parent this way and they are always warning and giving empty threats to their children. The kids are not listening because they know for a fact that their is not going to be any action taken so they just keep doing what they are doing. I always seem to see this type of parenting at the swimming pool... "don't run again or we are going home!" Kid runs. "This is the last time I am going to tell you to stop running!" Kid runs. "I am going to give you one more warning!" Kid runs. Yea you get the point.
The loud talking-screaming in their kid's face-cussing-pulling on the arm-just plain nasty in public and Lord knows what happens at home: I encounter these types of parents in so many public situations it makes me want to puke. They are sitting on their lazy bums not giving their child a bit of attention but man if something happens then they are all up in their face yelling and screaming and you can clearly see the child is scared out of their mind. When we were on vacation we were at the YMCA and this lady was not paying any attention to her rambuctous boys. One hit the other on the head and then nearly knocked over the candy stand because they were wrestling, well the lady FINALLY gets up off her booty and gets in the their faces and starts screaming about how they are terrible and that they are never going to do anything again in their lives and blah blah blah. Those poor boys were only trying to entertain themselves because their mom was so focused on her phone to give them any mind. UGH it just frustrates me when I see this type of parenting.
Of course there are the parents who fall in between and do a mix up of all and I am sure that the examples I have given you aren't strictly that type of parenting all the time. I am not judging any one said parenting style I just find it interesting that when one stops and looks around they can see so much.
I wonder what kind of parenting style someone who watches me would classify me in? I would hope that I am a combination of all of them but the last two!! I can tell you one thing, I am very far from perfect and often I wonder if I have failed my kids but then they do the tiniest little thing to make me realize I am doing a good job!
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